At my son's swimming lesson today, I started chatting with a fellow mompreneur. We were both sporting the leggings, messy ponytail, minimal makeup, stay-at-home mom look. She was clearly my people. We connected on the commonality of being passionate about our home businesses. You could tell, just by her voice and the way she looked at you, that this women had passion. Passion for her business, confidence in who she was and happiness with the time freedom her business allowed her.
We got to chatting about being able to stay home with our children. She said she had many friends who had lost themselves once they became stay at home mothers. So consumed with their children, that they forgot who they were. It happens, I get it. She asked me "did you ever lose yourself?" I did. Very briefly but I did forget for a pinch of time that there was more to life than motherhood. It's the best thing that every happened to me, don't get me wrong. I remember saying to my husband that once my daughter was born, I was the absolute happiest I had ever been-and I was a happy person at the best of times but this feeling, was like nothing I'd ever felt before. Pure happiness and bliss.
But moms out there, don't forget that you're more than a mom. You had friends, favorite places to go, hobbies and passions before kids. Don't lose that.
My swimming lesson mama said to me that she was so happy she was working on her passion while raising her babies because she was one step ahead of the game when her kiddos would be in school full-time. By the time that day comes, she'd have a successful home-based business and be saying "yes" to all the things she wanted in life (her kids are young like mine, so she's got a few years to work on this and I'm sure she'll be there). She said, when her kids have moved out, she won't be sitting there thinking "what should I do now?" or "it's time to take up a new hobby I guess!".
Show your kids how Mommy is enjoying her life and doing what she loves. Show them there is more to Mom than being "Mom". Teach them to run towards their passions instead of putting them on the back burner.
If you feel like you have ever lost yourself in mom-hood, that's ok. And perhaps some of you would prefer to just dive right in and are most comfortable in this exact role. It's ok. You can stay here, but only for a short while. You can be Mom but throw a bit of "YOU" into the mix as well. I think you're kids will love her too.